Monday, 31 January 2011

How to handle criticism?

The more you are higher visioneer, the more you are innovative, the more you deliver excellence, the more you will attract criticism. You can look at criticism from different points of view:

- as an opportunity to grow and think/perform bet...ter what you do;

- as a compliment. Leaders attract critisism, because they deliver not less than excellence;

- as a "trap" which tries to let you defocus from your goals/dreams/mission;

- as a good sign about you are an innovator (normally people don't like are changing the status quo!);

- as Leader without a title...criticism is part of the "package"! :)

At the end, criticism fuels you, because if you are a real "Leader without a title" you won't be discouraged!

Linda Lattuca

Saturday, 29 January 2011

Self-Esteem & Leadership without title

How do you respond to situations? I just finished a coaching session with a wonderful girl, who is a receptionist in a hotel in London. She is very loved and adored by customers. Recently, a customer embraced her, telling her: “You are the best receptionist in the world and I travel all around the world!” Wow, what a fantastic compliment!

Anyway, this wonderful receptionist, who delivers excellence in doing her job, felt very bad because of some words spoken from her boss, recently. Her manager told her to go back to her working place, being nice and doing her job. She started questioning about herself, if she really delivers excellence and so on. Her self-esteem was down and down. Today, she told me she would like to change her job, but she can’t find another one and she feels “powerless”.

What I started to tell her is that it is important how we respond to situations and not the situation itself. The words spoken from the manager hurt her very deeply; although she knows her value and that she delivers excellence to customers. What does it happen in these cases? Every time, we feel hurt from some others’ words, questioning about ourselves, with a consequent loss of self-esteem, we have to take our responsibility of our feelings. It is our decision to feel bad, it is the decision we take about the reaction we have. In that moment and this way, we decide to give our power away. Yes, we give our power away!

The most important person, who has to know your value, is yourself. Why? Because in your life, you can find, on your path, people who can have self-esteem issues, trying to put you down (it’s their favourite game! Only, this way, they feel stronger!). Don’t give your power away, please! Of course, every one of us can improve the performance in any kind of role; no limit, but at the same time, don’t lose your self-confidence, because everything starts from there in life, in any area of your life.

Don’t take personally what others tell you, try to understand if someone is talking to you in a certain way because he/she feels anger or frustration or she/he is under pressure. At the same time, be strong and if someone is not dealing with you with respect, exact respect and be respectful, at the same time. Don’t give your permission to people to deal with you without respect. Be still about that!

Self-esteem is the first brick to put at your baseone of my favourite quotes. Feel to be a leader whatever you do. It’s not important what you do, but how you are doing it. Are you delivering excellence to your customers? (Any role you play in this life. Even if you are a mum/dad…your “customers” are your husband/wife, children…). Self-esteem is a daily inside job and leadership, too. Leadership starts from your mind, heart and then actions. It’s about how much passion you have in your belly in doing what you do. And if you don’t like what you do, stop complaining and act to find what you like, to pursue your dream. Being bold!

Today, I had a powerful chat with one of my cousins and he told me: “I learnt that to have success in life you need two things: courage and respect. You need to take risks and only the experience will give you the answer you are looking for in taking a decision. Then, you have to be respectful in front of everyone!” Wise words!

Be the CEO of your area, whatever job you do or role you play. Do you think you need titles and money to be a leader, to have an impact on others’ lives? Change these limitative and false beliefs, if you have them, please! What about Mother Teresa and Gandhi? Not very tall, not riches (her best richness was inside them!), but at the same time with an incredible inner strength, with a will of iron towards their goals, expressing their talents and potential, their True Self (they expressed the God/Divinity they had in their within! Like every one of us should do it!). You can follow their example, because they are great examples. Feel inspired from them and emulate their best practises: be loving, caring and be still in your great values. Deliver not less than excellence, have faith 100% in yourself and don’t forget how power-full you are and that you can everything…only if you decide it!

Linda Lattuca

Monday, 24 January 2011

How do I work on my Self-Development?

I work on my self-development every single day. How?

1. My Holy Hour

2. Spiritual teachings from my Spiritual Master

3. Reading great books written by great Souls

4. I follow other Fab Colleagues (Coaches in different fields, especially in personal and executive/leadership coaching)

5. Powerful chat/chats

6. I learn from my life and others lives

7. I decide to listen than merely to hear

8. I ask questions to learn more

9. I travel with my mind, my astral and physical body towards interesting destinations. :)

Sunday, 9 January 2011

Law of Attraction & Leadership without a title

Recently, I received a message by the contact form on my website to someone who was asking how to attract and how to stand out from the crowd.

Here you are my reply, I would like to share with all of you:

Hi Mohammed,

I am so sorry if I am replying only now, but your message was considered a spam and I found it late. Sorry for that!

You asked me:

Expecting your guideline how to attract and stand out from the crowd.

First of all, the Law of Attraction is working in our lives 24 hours a day! So, you are attracting, anyway! What are you attracting? It depends on what you put out in this life and past lives!

It depends on thoughts, feelings, actions and omissions of this life and past lives. It’s very simple, at the end!

A different thing is: how to attract what you desire?

1) Focus your attention on what you desire: Where your focus goes your energy flows.

2) You need only 1 thing to manifest: FAITH 100% in YOURSELF and that you have just achieved your dream/dreams

3) Be happy, feel joy, laugh, live in the NOW: enjoy the journey to achieve your goal/goals

4) Deliver not less than excellence. It doesn’t matter what you do, but how you do it!

5) Realize your talents, express your potential

6) Be creative, because you are

7) Elevate the quality of your life, because YOU CAN!

8) Have an impact: leave people better than you found them!

9) Feel Special, because you are!

10) Be a Leader; act as a Leader in every area of your life. You don’t need titles for doing that! YOU CAN, if you decide that you can!!!

These are my main thoughts I had about your question.

Play at your best this wonderful adventure, called LIFE!!!

Wishing you beautiful manifestations in 2011.

All the best!

Linda Lattuca

Inner Wisdom & Law of Attraction Coach

Monday, 3 January 2011

Books: Food for Mind & Spirit. Linda Lattuca's Must Read Books

Books are Food for Mind & Soul. It's very important to read everyday, at least for 30 minutes, because this opens our mind. Read great books, which help you in your self-development, read great autobiographies/biographies of Wonderful Souls, such as Ghandi and Mother Teresa.
Take time for yourself and reading is one of the best ways, from my point of view.
I love reading and I love buying great books.
Here you are my MUST READ BOOKS List:

1. The Alchemist – Paulo Coelho

2. The Celestine Prophecy - James Redfield

3. Siddharta – Hermann Hesse

4. Deepak Chopra – The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success

5. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Stephen Covey

6. The Power of Positive Thinking – Norman Vincent Peale

7. You can if you think you can – Norman Vincent Peale

8. Conversations with God (all the books) – Neale Donald Walsch

9. You can heal your life – Louise Hay

10. Love your Body – Louise Hay

11. The Power within You – Louise Hay

12. Chi cerca trova – Swami Maheshananda (My Spiritual Master’s book, in Italian: there was also an English version in USA)

13. Autobiography of a Yogi – Paramahansa Yogananda

14. The Art of War – Sun Tzu

15. Tao Te Ching – Lao Tze

16. As you think – James Allen (re-adapted by Marc Allen) maybe the oldest book in the world about the Law of Attraction

17. Think & Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill

18. A Manual for Living – Epictetus

19. Ask and it is given – Esther & Jerry Hicks

20. The Secret – Rhonda Byrne

21. The Power – Rhonda Byrne

22. The Monk who sold his Ferrari – Robin Sharma

23. The Greatness Guide (Book 1 & 2) – Robin Sharma

24. The Saint, the Surfer and the CEO – Robin Sharma

25. The Leader who had no title – Robin Sharma

26. The way of the champion (Lessons from Sun Tzu’s The Art of War and other Thao Wisdom for Sports & Life) – Jerry Lynch

27. Coming to our senses: Healing ourselves and the world through Mindfulness - Jon Kabat Zinn

28. Yoga Sutras – Patanjali

29. Bhagavad Gita

30. Biography of Gandhi

31. Biography of Mother Teresa

32. Prayer Energy – Richard Lawrence

33. The Practsing of the Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle

Great Books to have Great Thoughts

Linda Lattuca

Inner Wisdom & Law of Attraction Coach